what about the person you love

Laetitia · 06-29-2006, 11:15 AM

I love the sea and diving but my boyfriend who does realy enjoy the sea side isn't keen on diving at all. Do you have more luck than me?
He did try a few times to please me but he just doesn't enjoy himself so i now dive alone

scuba jerm · 06-29-2006, 03:53 PM

sorry to hear that..... that just sucks, and I know the feeling for a different sport.

For about 8 years I surfed everyweek and I tried to get my wife involved... she isn't really athletic and had no interest in it at all. and if you know any passionate surfers, they can tell you what it feels like to have someone you love not appreciate your sport... it would be like a concerte pianist, who is really good, have a spouse that thinks your piano playing is a waste of time. So naturally I gave up... she just wasn't coming around... not even willing to watch me.... super sucked!

But, we took a scuba class together and she ended up loving it, and we've dove in Hawaii, and Catalina together...FINALLY found some sport or activity we both like.

So although your boyfriend may not like it (which is just plain crazy) he may like another activity later..... and who knows... maybe he will come to like scuba if he sees how much it means to you. That would be ideal right?

Good luck.

**glynneco** · 06-30-2006, 03:06 AM

My wife doesn't dive or even swim! I think it's great. She loves the beach and I go diving. From a practical standpoint it cuts the cost of diving in half! Another benifit is when I come home with some new dive bling I can always tell her it's to make diving safer. You want me to be safer don't you?! So far she's always answered yes. If she were certified that line wouldn't work as well. The only bad part is she sometimes decides to go shopping while I dive. That can make for one very expensive dive!

Gillian · 06-30-2006, 07:24 AM

I'm single for now so this isn't a bother, but i realy don't see myself ending up with someone who doesn't like diving. Whenever i have the occasion to I do so, it's realy my biggest passion in life and i only tend to hang around with friends who practice it too

**glynneco** · 06-30-2006, 02:15 PM

Yeah, people who don't dive quickly get bored when I start talking about diving. You do ted to talk to other divers. My two brothers,a sister and my oldest daughter all dive so family get togethers are always fun. My long suffering wife smiles sweetly and pretends to listen! I love that woman!

swimfast · 07-01-2006, 09:43 AM

it's actualy my loved one who 'forced me' into diving a few weeks ago and i must say that's i 'm so happy that she did so, it's one of the most exciting things i've ever done

Soledad · 07-05-2006, 08:07 AM

I mainly dive with my wife, sue started diving about 5-6 years ago because she wanted us to spend more time together and she knew taht it was a passion who took a lot of my time. I don't think she regrets as she realy seems to be fond of it now!

DownThere · 07-23-2006, 08:59 PM

I'm still single for the time being but I realy don't picture myself with someone who wouldn't be fond of diving. All my friends are divers, the only rare ones who aren't are those i meet at work

Scuba Mama · 08-11-2006, 02:58 PM

I'll throw in on this. My husband does not dive it sucks, I would love for him to understand why I love the sport so much. I meet him playing volleyball and thought at the time I would also love volleyball as much as he does, that changed I could play or not no big deal. What he does understand is my passion for something he feels the same way about volleyball. I call it a two sport family. I also know he would never dive do to a medical issue. It is fine to have two sport family you have to be willing to understand the passion the other is going to feel for there sport and be happy they choose to be with you also. It will be hard at times but it also nice to have something else different you can talk about. Good luck on your choices.

**glynneco** · 08-11-2006, 03:35 PM

My wife and I have been married for 34 years. 5 of them happy. A day here and a day there add up over 34 years! Just kidding! WE have had numerous things/activities that we have done seperately and together over that time. Having your own area gives some seperation and opportunity for individual growth and fulfilment keeping youself fresh, excited and interesting. Togetherness is important as well. We share interests that we do together and stay connected that way. For instance, when we go on vacation I'll dive three days in the morning and leave the afternoon and the other days for her. Careers , hobbies, houses, even children have come and gone but my wife and I are still together. Your spouse doesen't dive? Enjoy your time apart. You'll tell them interesting stories of your adventures. Just make sure you take the time to listen to their tales (even if it is about really boring scrapbooking stuff. Who knew there were so many ways to cut paper?!) Life is short, enjoy yours and enjoy your spouse. You can have it all if you try!